I often used to wonder, how smart, kids are today. We were just dumb in comparison to them, in our childhood. Reasons could be many, media exposure, lot of care and attention in nuclear families, extra awareness of parents, too much competitions, stress to stand out in mass and so on. But to tackle their smartness, and handle them in balanced way, we parents need to learn a lot. Every day, we get new challenges to manage our parenthood, well. Its difficult, rather seems impossible.. but no way out.. we can’t give up… 
we need to fight with the fear.. fear of our children as well, fear of ours.
In morning today, my eyes caught the title ” 11 year old boy fakes own kidnap to avoid his English exams” in the news paper. I was just left mouth open.. took a while to breath again. Faking sickness say, stomachache, backache, headache or any other kind of ache or fever, or emotional blackmailing is ok, sounds normal, as an excuses to avoid exams. But faking kidnap!! that too his own!! Ridiculous!! How that 11 year old, got that strange idea in his mind? And final fear.. how to stop my 5 year old from thinking such strange and weird ideas?
Yeah! the baseline is “fear”. That 11 year old had fear of his parents’ scoldings, in case he wouldn’t manage to get good score in that subject. And yesss, media exposure, he got this idea from some TV serials. It is two ways fight again for the parent. Parents need to build such confident relation with their children, that ” fear” do not come in between anywhere plus parents need to impart some good and strong values and thoughts to judge them, what is right and what is wrong, what they are suppose to pick from media and what not to. Ultimately, parent’s fear build up from their children’s fear, and children’s fear build up from parents.
Most of the time, children lies, when they is not allowed by parents to open their mind and heart in front of them. We, of course need to scold our children, whenever needed but before that we need to build our relation with them, such that, they would take those scoldings in positive way, for their benefit. For a fearless parent child relation, parents need to take first step.. I need to take first step.. for my happiness. Cheers!
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